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Post edited by: whizzbang, at: 2007/05/22 10:00

Post edited by: whizzbang, at: 2007/05/22 10:01

Not knowing all the circumstances of this babies parents sit-
situation limits comment somewhat, but I can testify to the
absolute selfishness of such an act as I was on the receiving
end of such an abandonment, and I question any justification
of it. I wasn't told until I was 28 years old that the man I
thought was my father wasn't. I never got on with him and
didn't fully feel part of the family, and I did not know why.
Things fell into place when I was told the truth. My mother
and real father were not married, broke up, my mother tried
to abort me (she took a pill of some kind, it didn't work,
God saved me), and my father shut the door in our faces when
she turned up on his doorstep with me in her arms, he didn't
want to know me. After searching for him, I met him when Iwas
36 years old in 1999, and he said he didn't remember, but his
wife and my two half brothers say that he really does. We had
DNA testing which proved paternity. He seemed interested at
first like a child with a new toy, then lost interest and
now does not return my calls or letters. It is sad, and I
don't feel anything for him except maybe pity, what a sad way
for him to be. The only fathers love I have known is Gods,
and when it comes to the human love of a father or a man,
that is something I feel I have never had. No child deserves
that. Mothers in this day and age are not without social
security support, and emergency housing if needed. Help from
many agencies is available for mothers today if there is no
family support. I am struggling to find any reason good
enough to justify this womans behaviour and I am failing
miserably. Even if she was raped, that is not the childs
fault. Does anybody ever consider the baby in these sit-
uations. I think not otherwise they would not occur.

Rubyleeangel.

Ruby.....I feel absolutely privilaged that you shared that story about your life. Saying thank-you seems so trite but let me assure you that your bravery is an inspiration.

I don't know why these things happened to you but I do know that God is not going to let you down. He will be there for you in all circumstances and that like a lost sheep you have been found.

It must be really difficult having a father reject your letters etc. but I know that it must be comforting to know that you have letters from the Lord bound in His Word. Each of them specifically placed together just for you as He expresses his love towards you and your situation.

Once again....it was been a privilage to hear some of your story.

Rubylee your story is amazing and I agree with Whizzbang, I feel pretty priviledged to know about it. Thanks for sharing so deeply. It's amazing how abandonment can be felt in a myriad of ways and how it does affect a child even if they have grown in a loving home with two parents. The fear of abandonment is a real human condition and can affect people in a myriad of ways. When I was a toddler my father left me alone on a lielow in the water at the beach while he went to the men's room. What can I say - men sometimes don't think! He assumed I would be fine. My mother was napping and she was totally convinced my father was looking after me. Something prompted my mother in the midst of a nap to look up and she saw my dad walking to the men's room without me. She looked towards the water to find me and was horrified to see that I was miles out to sea. It's an amusing story because obviously I'm fine. Teenage boys swam out to the deep end and they found happy baby bobbing away at sea. Interestingly enough I never knew I had abandonment issues because of this and only discovered it recently through some counselling. I discovered that I was so loved and cared for by God, despite my father's imperfections. I had to forgive my father for not thinking,for abandoning me and for putting my life at risk. I found abandonment leads to fear of being able to trust ie other people/relationships. I had to overcome this.

I pray for this little baby she can grow up when she is older and do the same.