My first blog. Let me say as a 32 year old single christian woman living in Sydney - dating is not very easy. There are so many do's and don'ts - where do you start. As much as it would be nice to think that men still ask you out on a date first, the reality is this is rare. I am not old fashioned but nor am I into women's liberation. God designed men and women differently on purpose. I agree with aussiegold that women have taken on roles as leaders in areas that we probably shouldn't. But that is a whole other blog...............

Whilst it is nice to have a man ask you out on a date I think as women we forget that they are probably rather nervous about asking us as they don't know if they will get a yes or no response. This can be easily remedied by engaging in conversation with them and smiling when around them more; be a little flirtaous - (its healthy)and will help them to see you are interested; go out with your friends more often allowing the opportunity for guys to see you in different settings. Don't be shut off to a guy just because he doesn't tick off everything in your list - maybe even get rid of the list!!! (One of my best friends recently agreed to go on a date with a guy who she has known for a while but never considered boyfriend material. we encouraged her to go out and well they are now together and very happy - she is constantly telling me how he has all these little things that she has desired in a guy for so long, but never thought he would have).

Let me also say that I think a girl asking a guy for a coffee or movie etc is totally ok. You don't have to be this completely independent & strong woman to ask either. Just be yourself, whether a guy likes you or not shouldn't stop you from getting out there and giving dating a go!

I like what aussiegold also said about going into a relationship asking "how can I make this ladys' life better?" This can also apply to us woman i.e. "how can I make this man's life better?" Remember each bring something to a relationship.

At the end of the day God has the most amazing plan for you which includes a man if that is your desire. Trust God to bring your path into contact with the right guy for you at the right time. Enjoy your life and have fun in the meantime - who knows who is waiting around the corner for you..............

Of course, a true leader is one who serves, and leads by being a strong role model for his family. But how can a man lead when he has lost his own sense of direction? We all have a long road back to true values in relationships, and my hearts desire is to help men regain their identity and role in their relationships.
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